Swedish Bhairavi Says: “Emotions - Riding the Waves, Returning to Peace”

Emotions rise, wash over us, and if we’re aware enough, they pass. But if not, we clutch. We start wrapping emotions around our identity, dragging them into the next scene, carrying them into our relationships, our narratives, our next mistake. And in doing so, we become slaves to them thinking we are at the hands of our emotions.

This is neither about suppressing emotions, nor is it about glorifying them. It’s about learning to see them for what they are, impermanent yet powerful, fleeting yet formative. They are not enemies. They are colors, tones, textures. They are energy, Shakti. They shape our inner weather, but they are not the sky itself.

We recently spoke about death and the importance of preparing for a good death. Emotions are part of that preparation. They teach us about the perishable and the eternal, about what dies with the body, and what remains.

So, don’t attach to your emotions or anyone else’s. They are waves and you are not the wave. You are the sea.

Step One: Begin Noticing
Begin by allowing yourself to feel emotions, the spectra of emotions, noticing what arises in you.

Step Two: Identify What You Avoid
Which emotions are hard for you to feel? Is there one that always overwhelms you, or one you always push away? Those are often the keys. They show us what needs clearing, what needs opening.

Step Three: Cultivate the Reset
Once you’ve ridden the waves enough times as a practice, you begin to find the reset button. The return to peace. The state of Shanta, a luminous calm that holds all things. This is the home base.

Step Four: Use Emotions for Creation
From that state, you begin to use emotions consciously. You begin to create or channel what you desire. You direct them toward expression, beauty, connection, transmission. They no longer control your narrative helplessly scattering your being, you instead become the author.

Actors, dancers, singers, musicians, those who work with emotion daily, know this deeply. They know the power of stepping fully into an emotion. Although, many of them don’t know the importance of stepping out. Many actors even turn down roles steeped in depression or despair, because they know how hard it can be to release them afterward. The reset, the Shanta, cultivating the taste of peace, the rasa of Peace is transformative.

Even in this Vajra Dhyana course, we’ve said we’re amping up the “crazy” a little. A baby step to open up. But that doesn’t mean recklessness. It means playfulness with awareness. Tantra is not for the too shy, but it is also not about force. So take it gently. Let the practices stir what they stir, but don't push yourself into anything you don’t want to integrate.

In future, when ready, if you ever live near a Guru, you’ll experience emotional training in daily life. You will be seen. You’ll be mirrored and you will see how emotions come as waves and how they move through you, with each wave opening you up for more knowledge and realisations.

I have seen Bhairav Ji move through intense emotional flares, fury, sorrow, love, laughter, like watching elements dance in their raw form. And just as powerfully, I have seen him reset. Back to stillness. Back to the mountain. I know the emotions are used as tools. That there is intelligence and grace in the one who can feel fully and let go completely. Not with shame or self-consciousness, but with elegance.

I’ve seen it in myself too. From a whirlwind of emotions swaying me from one coast to another helplessly, I have tasted the rasa of peace and I’ve felt what it means to be the ocean. I’ve developed the ability to reach a desired emotion without drowning in it because I know the way to return to peace.

The Siddhas are the architects of emotion. They build landscapes of perception, rage, devotion, bliss, only to dissolve them and build again. They are the directors of their inner and outer movie.

Your life is also like a movie. Watch a film carefully and see how music, lights, words and situations build emotions. Your life is doing the same.
You can be the director. A director with heart, with clarity and divine tact. Channeling both the impermanent and the eternal.

With Love,
Swedish Bhairavi